When deciding on whether to get to know someone better, men and women prioritize things differently. At least at the very beginning…
Men will get curious about a woman if they find her attractive. They still want the full package but in order for them to want to explore the inside of that package, they are first drawn to the wrapping
I often see when matching men and women in Match4Me, that at the end of every date, men would make the choice of seeing the woman they have just dated again, based mainly on her looks. Women will decide if to see this guy again based on his achievements, values, sense of humor.
The reason is a basic one. Although times have changed, when deciding if a person is right for us, men base their decision on looks, thinking:
I want a woman who is beautiful and fit that will give me beautiful and healthy babies
And also, someone who takes good care of her body, will stay attractive for longer, will age well.
While women think:
I need a guy I can rely on, someone that can take care of me and our future kids. Can provide for us all at times where I won’t be able to financially contribute (i.e at home with the kids).
Someone who is driven and ambitious. Who will be able to manage the financial challenges the future brings. Family, mortgage, etc.
Don`t get me wrong, I am not saying that women will date just anyone as long as they can provide and men will be happy with a fully dependent woman as long as she is beautiful. No.
I am saying that when a man and a woman who are both single and looking to be in a long term relationship meet for the very first time, their focus is different.